Immaturity
Immaturity may be another reason we are waiting on God for a mate. Either we are not fully developed in a particular area of our life, or our partner is not fully developed in a particular area of their life. You may look around and see other people who seems not to have what it takes to sustain a marriage, but are married. Maybe they married without God's consultation. It is easy to find someone who will marry you tomorrow if the "passion" is there. However, we as believers should not make critical decisions based on our emotions. If you are truly waiting on the Lord to send you a mate you have to trust His judgment and timing.
Circumstances
We have no idea what circumstances God needs to smooth out in order to bring forth a marriage. Just as a mother would not give her child raw meat to eat, the Lord will not allow us to marry under "raw" circumstances. There is a time and season for everything Ecclesiastes 3:1. God waits until circumstances are fully ripe and developed before bringing forth His Will.
Don't compare self to others and Seek God yourself
Never compare yourself to others when waiting on God for a mate. God's ways are higher than our own ways (Isa 55:9). When we compare ourselves to others we often feel that we don't measure up or that the other person does not measure up. This leaves us with thoughts such as "if they can get married, why can't I? I come to church more than they do, they have a bad attitude, they have three 'babies daddies'". Both thoughts can lead to jealousy or envy. However, we do not know what that person had to endure and overcome with God's strength. We also need to realize that God will not put more on us than we can bear (1 Cor 10:13). God allows some people to marry at a time that might seem "unreasonable" to us in order to bring stability and peace into their lives. I have seen people who were struggling with kids, loneliness, and a host of other issues receive a mate who seemly rescued them from the madness they were in. God's merciful like that. Christianity often promotes this teaching that two people have to be complete, whole, and perfect as individuals before God will allow them to marry. As if you are somehow promoted from singleness to marriage, like we're in grade school. However, I beg to differ. I have seen people, especially women, who appeared to be rescued by their mate. I have seen countless times of a single mother struggling to raise her kids, and provide for them and a Godly man comes into her life and helps her. This is very similar to what Boaz did to Ruth. Ruth was broken when she met Boaz. God used him to uplift her in her time of need.
Stay tuned for Pt.3
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