Wednesday, October 24, 2012

Ten Tips for Waiting on a Husband

1. Take one day at a time: Do not look at the "waiting period" as 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, etc. That will overwhelm you and cause undue stress and worry. Don't worry about how long you may have to wait, just wait.

2. Maintain a positive attitude: “The joy of the Lord is my strength and shield; my heart trusts in Him, and I am helped. My heart leaps for joy and I will give thanks to Him in song.” Psalm 28:7 (NIV). Walk in a spirit of joy, peace, patience, and contentment.  Do not put your life on hold waiting on a man. Oftentimes, single women press pause on their lives as they wait on God.  However, this is similar to idolatry.  

3. Have hobbies: Discover who you are while you are still single.  Do not wait until prince charming comes along to “find yourself”.  Find yourself now!  This will ensure that when God sends your mate, you can add to his life.  Men and women are designed to enhance one another.

4. Find and Pray for Godly friends: Having a Godly support system helps to endure the season of singleness. Being single would not seem so long and drawn out if you have solid people around you. You will get into less trouble if you are accountable to someone. God desires that we carry each other’s burdens. Once you establish a Godly support system, pray together. 

5. Ask God to deafen your ears to negative talk: Everyone knows at least one person with an abundance of opinions concerning their single state. This person may remind you of your ticking biological clock, a strand of gray hair, and all the weddings they went to last summer. Do not listen to these people. They will weaken your faith and have you questioning God. You do not want to live your life in a constant state of panic. 

6. Get out of the house: Getting out of the house is "spiritual". Do not close yourself in a room all day with a bucket of ice cream. This can open the door to depression. Also, you are not going to meet someone if you are depressed and stuck inside of the house. God may be trying to send you a husband, but you will not leave the house. 

7. Ask the Lord to protect you from counterfeits: One of the main ways the Enemy tries to rob you of your God ordained destiny is by sending you the wrong person. This is someone who is not compatible to you. Satan will love to capitalize on any weaknesses you have by sending a counterfeit. This mate will not be the person God has intended for you and will cause confusion, hindrances, and obstacles. Ask the Lord to protect you from counterfeits. 

8. Do not compare yourself to others: I know that you have heard fiery darts from the Enemy whispering, "So and so got married at 21, what’s wrong with you" or "Look at that sister. She’s 57 years old, leads morning prayer at church, and still can’t find a man! See praying is no use!.” These are lying spirits sent to cast doubt into your mind. Tell those lying spirits, "The devil is a Liar!" 

9. Do not try to find a man: “Girl this is 2012, you got to find yourself a man”. I do not care if it is the year 20,012 God does not change, Malachi 3:62. The Word states in Proverbs 18:22 that “he who finds a wife finds a good thing...”(NIV) You will have a mess on your hands if you run ahead of God and try to FIND a man. 

10. Beware of this voice: "You missed God. He sent you a husband but you were not paying attention. Your mind was over there in la la land”. Tell that voice, "Satan, you are a lying fool". Even if you somehow "missed God" on one occasion, I truly believe that He will send the person to you multiple times. If you or your intended mate did not recognize each other while in English class, maybe it will click later on, years down the line when you bump into each other at Walmart. God is a merciful God. Marriage is too important for Him to just plan a one time, do or die, hit or miss, chance encounter. I heard one testimony where a woman rejected a man thirteen times before going out with him. However, they are now happily married. If God can bring about a marriage in such an extreme circumstance, what more can He do for You? 

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