Monday, December 31, 2012

The Holiness of Sex: Being Set Apart

Qadosh is a Hebrew adjective meaning "holy" or "sacred" (1).  Isaiah 6:3 states "....Holy, Holy, Holy is the Lord Almighty..." (NIV).  This word "holy" denotes that God is in a class of His own.  He is set apart, there is no other God, He is God alone.

Similarly, marriage is supposed to be set apart.  With the exception of being a widow/widower you will assume that married couples have no sexual experience prior to marriage. However, that is far from the reality of what is occurring in today's culture.  The average American/Western couple have had a series of sexual relationships often beginning in the teenage years.  These erred relationships  carry on throughout adulthood.   Just as a car pick up "miles" due to driving, many couples have picked up miles along the way.  Thus, they enter a supposedly "holy" union with a history of unholy deeds and acts.

Though God forgives sin, that doesn't stop the consequences from manifesting. The consequences of sexual sin are sexual transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, and mental and psychological turmoil.  Many men and women lack the intimate connection that is central to a successful relationship because they have been so intimate with other people in their past.  With each sexual experience a piece of their soul was wasted on an ungodly relationship.  God meant for this hidden part of them to only be shared with the one destined for them, however, the couple squandered it on the wrong people previous to uniting with one another.

This bears serious implications for the marital relationship.  They have developed wrong relationship patterns based on previous failed relationships and without God's forgiveness, intervention, and help these unions will end tragically.

Stay tune for the rest of this installation "The Holiness of Sex: "Soul Ties" 

1  Strong, J. 1990. 6918 "Qadosh" The New Strong's Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible.  Nashville:  Thomas Nelson Publisher


Worried Virgin Guy said...

I've been doing a lot of thinking about sex before marriage and it seems like there is just no easy way out.
I'm 21 years old and I don't see myself getting married any time soon. It's really scary and somewhat depressing that I'm going to have to wait for almost ten years before I ever get a taste of sex.
I guess my biggest question is if by marriage, the Bible simply meant "long term committed relationship." I would imagine that in the past, people got married much earlier than they do today. As such, waiting was much easier. Heck I probably would have been married by now.
I hope I don't look back on my youth someday, and regret not having all the sex so many people my age are enjoying now.

Rhonda Jones said...

Dear Worried Virgin Guy. People are not having all of the sex that you may think they are having. That is just an illusion. You have to trust in God to bring that right person as your wife into you life. In the Bible there were not such thing as marriage meaning "long term committed relationship" marriage was like it is now, marriage. Hang in there and trust in God.

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