Matthew 7:2 – “…and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.”
In previous posts in this series, I’ve shared about the law of sowing and reaping. I’ve emphasized that God is intentional—He invites us to take deliberate steps toward the life we desire in Him. Yes, He is supernatural, but He’s also practical. Unfortunately, many of us tend to view God through a lens of what I call “spooky thinking”—especially when it comes to big life issues like marriage.
By “spooky thinking,” I mean the belief that things will just magically fall into place without our involvement. It’s the mindset that says, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll just happen,” rather than understanding that we’re called to partner with God. He’s not a magician who zaps blessings out of thin air—He’s a wise and intentional Father who works through principles, timing, and preparation. Yes, God can do the miraculous, but He also expects us to move in faith, not just wait passively for things to appear.
This is where the principle of sowing and reaping becomes so important. If we want to see movement in a specific area of life—like marriage—we must sow intentionally in that direction. That means praying, preparing, listening for God’s voice, and letting go of limiting beliefs. Faith is not passive. Faith is a seed. And when we sow it through deliberate action, we’re aligning ourselves with God’s divine order.
One area where “spooky thinking” especially shows up is in our ideas about marriage. Since Jesus was raised in a Jewish context, I’m turning to Everyman’s Talmud: The Major Teachings of the Rabbinic Sages by Abraham Cohen to help us examine marriage from a Hebrew perspective—clearing out some of the fog and mysticism we’ve allowed to build up around it.
Interestingly, I hadn’t even planned to write about marriage or mates today. But as I began typing, this topic poured out. So if it seems like I’m veering off course, stay with me. I believe the Holy Spirit is leading this direction because someone needs clarity.
Many people—especially women—find themselves asking: When will I marry? Will I ever marry? Is this my season for marriage? While God does indeed operate in times and seasons, it’s not as mysterious as we sometimes make it out to be. The Bible uses phrases like “the wife of your youth” and “the husband of your youth” (see Proverbs 5:18, Joel 1:8), which suggest that there is often a natural season for marriage.
On page 162 of Everyman’s Talmud, Cohen writes, “To marry and rear a family was a religious command; indeed, the first of all the commands addressed by God to man (Genesis 1:28).” In other words, marriage and family aren’t just personal desires—they’re divine directives. According to rabbinic tradition, the ideal age for marriage was between 18 and 24.
Of course, in modern times, many people marry later due to career, education, healing, or simply waiting on God’s timing—and that’s okay. But just as we expect children to grow, speak, and mature at certain stages, there are often windows when marriage fits naturally into a person’s life path. Biologically, a woman’s fertility tends to decline after 40, so it can be wise to prayerfully seek God about marriage during one’s most fertile years—generally between ages 18 and 35.
That said, God is not bound by human timelines or medical statistics. He is the Author of miracles, and He writes unique, individualized stories. What matters most is staying aligned with His voice, His timing, and His purpose for your life.
In biblical times, a woman’s father played a role in ensuring she married at the appropriate time. Today, many of us come from broken homes, and society is less marriage-minded than it once was. As a result, many men haven’t been taught how to be men, and many women have never been taught how to fully walk in their womanhood. That’s why, now more than ever, we must look to our Heavenly Father to guide us into godly unions.
And He will speak. If you have a close relationship with God, He can and will give you wisdom about your future spouse. God isn’t out here playing games with your heart or leaving you in confusion. While He may be silent in some areas of life, I don’t believe your future mate is one of them.
As a single woman, I’ve experienced God warning me about certain men before they ever approached me. I know believers who were led by God to their spouses long before any romantic connection began. That doesn’t mean God will audibly announce your spouse’s name—but He may give you an undeniable peace, a prompting, or a spiritual “yes” when the right person enters your life.
This all brings us back to Matthew 7:2: “With what measure you mete, it shall be measured to you again.” If you believe that God will lead you clearly and personally, He will. But if you only half-believe, thinking, “Maybe someday God will bless me with someone,” then you may find yourself surrounded by “maybe” energy—uncertainty, confusion, and delays.
God honors bold faith. So sow with intention. Trust His timing. But also move in expectation. As you do, you position yourself for what He’s already prepared.
✨ TAKEAWAY:
God is not spooky—He’s strategic. Miracles often follow movement. When you sow intentional faith, God meets you with intentional guidance. Let go of passive “maybe” thinking, and boldly expect the clarity and fulfillment He’s promised.
1 comment:
I am 27 and also single. There was a time when people like you and I were stigmatized for not being married (I take it you are in your 20s too). But it's true we were looked down upon for our bachelor life, which gave nothing to society.
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