Tuesday, April 10, 2007

Having Fun While Waiting on the Lord to Provide a Husband















"No one whose hope is in You will ever be put to shame..."  Psalm 25:3

Daily, I am learning how to wait on God's provision concerning a mate.  Importantly, I am learning that the process does not have to be torture.  The Lord wants us to enjoy the waiting period while we stand in faith.  He wants us to use this period of time to study His Word and His character.  He wants us to use this time to fellowship with Godly friends.  God does not want His daughters sitting in a corner somewhere crying.  He does not want us to lock ourselves in a room all day with a Bible.  The Lord desires us to enjoy life where we are RIGHT NOW!  Life does not start the moment Mr. Right walks through the door.  But you can have a comfortable wait.

I used to complain to God concerning the waiting period.  I used to tell Him that it was too long.  I would recite facts and statistics to God during prayer that I have read in magazines. I used to say "God I think it is time for a husband because I am 25 and my biological clock is ticking. I don't want my ovaries to go bad". Or I would say "God I read an article that says that the biological clock starts ticking at 27, and I'm 25". Some days I would be really down and say "Lord, I'm frying chicken, but I have no one to fry it for."

But God doesn't want us to be worried that our ovaries are going bad, or that by the time we marry we would be shriveled up like a raisin. He is a practical God. So I am learning to just enjoy God, enjoy life, and have hobbies. If God can give the little Tweety bird in the tree a "mate" wouldn't He do the same for you?

Photo used: rock




53 comments:

Insightful said...

Well I'm 27 and looking for Miss Right. I know one day it will happen and I will be married, but I sometimes think to myself who will that person be? What will she be like? How far off will it be? How will I have met her? Then I think about the past and the choices I made in life, the people I possibly had a chance to be married to. Life is just amazing. From one day to the next it is something else indeed. I see how some of my friends' lives from high school have panned out up to now and some are married with children! Then I wonder why couldn't that have been me? But I put it in the hands of the Lord. He knows what's best for all of us and only he knows the time and place when we have a date with destiny. But the Lord best helps those who help themselves so like you I am not going to let it put me down but be proactive. Sometimes love could be staring us in the face all along and we are blind to it because we've been overlooking it with our tendency for far-sightedness...

Rhoadie said...

True words indeed.

Deborah said...

This is truely heart warming Rhoadie. It gives me hope to know that my loving mna of God will come and not delay. You were right in every sense fo the word and I'm gla dits coming from a single woman and not a married one, that makes it more understanding. I now have to shake up myself and just enjoy life while I wait. God will not leave me alone, its gonna be alright. Thanks and God bless you. Thanks again for the article.

Rhoadie said...

Deborah, I am glad you enjoyed it.

Anonymous said...

Oh, Rhoadie, I am currently sitting at my desk NYC 1:39PM, feeling a little lonely, called an ex; really he wasn't an actual ex just you know what, that’s before I started trusting God. Sometimes I feel like I’m in this world alone where is my husband? Someone that I know really loves me, Yes God does and I know but still. Oh I am actually feeling a little better writing this comment. Thanks for your message.

Love NYC lives in Brooklyn

ServinHim247 said...

I'm 27 and looking for the man the Lord has for me. It's been a battle waiting. I see others finding guys online and I just don't think that's the way to go. I see some friends of mine who are happily married. I figure instead of worrying about marrying the wrong man, I'll just trust and depend on the Lord to work it all out.

Rhoadie said...

Yeah, I feel you Servin Him, don't give up.

Ashley Thomas said...

Hearing your story boosted my faith. Somedays the waiting seems unbareable. Until it'ts the next day and I realize that (hey I made it to tomorrow) It's December 12 and the lord told me that I friend and I both will be married fall and last year God said we will be married before 2008 is our. We both obedentily purchased our wedding dresses in august and picked our brides maids colors as we were instructed to do. It's so hard somes times when people are getting married around left and right. And you are still waiting. I am 21 and my friend is 31 and we know how you and many woman fell waiting on the Lord for THE one. The part when you said sometimes you feel you may have missed him. I hear that in my head all the time. I thought it was just me.

Anonymous said...

Thank you -- this is just what I needed today. God Bless.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the great words. I'm waiting as well...

Anonymous said...

I have read this post 2 times or so. I am not sure how I missed the part on asking God to protect me from the counterfeit mates. I am going to include this from now on.
Thanks

Anonymous said...

Julia
I am 26 and got married at the age of 20. I have one son and in April of 2007 my husband walked out on us. He did not want to be a husband any longer and wanted to live a free life with no commitments.I divorced him a year and a half later as he then had another woman and I knew I would never go back to him. I have been seeking God for a while now for a kind, loving born again christian husband who is firmly grounded in the Lord. I am a very bubbly person but do not have many friends at all and sometimes I feel really alone. Except for my father who is married and a very busy man none of my family are christians. I am very ambitious and work really hard. I have a beautiful son and keep reminding myself that God is faithful and not a man that he should lie. I never want to fall short before him and sin while I am waiting. I know it will be worth the wait. I hope that this strengthens someone today keep praying he said if we believe that he is able to do it then he will do it. "ASK AND YE SHALL RECEIVE" Ask him to renew your strength daily while you wait. XXX

Anonymous said...

Im 23 and madly in love with a man that was told by the Lord to go to school first, and then his wife will be there for him...im so confused because i thought for sure we were going to be together... No im thinking...do i wait? do i leave?.. will waiting keep me from the man that im suppose to be with if not him? what if i wait 3 years and he leaves with another woman...what a heartbreak that will be...i just dont know what to do...ive been praying for answers and the only think i can do is wait....but seeing him, hearing his voice, all that just hurts...were still friends....but apart of me feels like i shouldnt be in his life anymore, because every time i leave him i feel the break of the break up again....I love the Lord so much, and i know he knows whats best for me...but sheesh...

just send me a sign!! (lol)

Rhoadie said...

I am glad this post bless all of you, I will be doing a part 2 shortly.

Anonymous said...

This is a wonderful God inspired sight. The Lord has been leading me to the right sites tonight. I was feeling very loney. I'm a widow and my husband had been dead for almost eight years now. The marriage wasn't very good but it offered companionship. My children are grown and I even have grandchildren.

Because I was married so young, I never experience a relationship with a Godly man. I pray each night for God to bring me a husband that will love me and treat me right. I have learned so much about how to be a good wife. It gets hard, I"m about to turn 44 and all of my friends are in relationships and seem to be having a ball. I just keep on trusting the Lord. God has even helped me to lose 11 pounds and when I exercise, I find myself talking to him.

The worse part is at night, falling asleep another night without anyone to say "I love you". God please help!

Rhoadie said...

Keep your head up anonymous. I'm sorry to hear about your lost. Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.

Anonymous said...

I am a 30 year old single female. Waiting has not been easy. I have prayed, fasted and believed but nothing has happened so far. One thing I now know is that God is not late, He is always on time. He shall come through at the right time. To all the other singles out there, let us be encouraged that if we remain steadfast and faithful, God is sure to answer our prayers. In the mean time, let us enjoy each and every day and still be grateful for all the other blessings God has bestowed on us.

Corinne Aguilar said...

I am 28 years old and made so many mistakes sometimes I feel like I am the one who missed out while I was messing up with all the wrong ones, I know that is a lie and that now God genuinely has me in a waiting place, to learn and to grow and I believe weather your here for 2 years or here for 40 that until you learn what God is showing you that you will wait, and it will be longer if all you do is keep going down the same path and complaining all the time. So I have decided to stop complaining and just enjoy the climb, because I know without a shadow of a doubt the Lord loves me and weather I stay single for a long time or a little, that what he has blessed me with now is the mission I am suppose to be attacking now. So I wait... Listen... and have faith that God has got this like so many other things and I will have an amazing husband one day!! (The one God has made for me... nothing is an accident.)

Anonymous said...

hello rhoadie! i just came across your blog. you're absolutely right. i'm turning 40 this year, single yet still hopeful of the mate whom God has chosen for me. i had my heart broken several times in the past & i know how much it takes to heal a broken heart & spirit. waiting is difficult but whatever we do while waiting should be well thought. you were right. it is now our quest to get to know God all the more, get to know ourselves. thus fulfill His 2 greatest commandments; Loving Him loving others as we love ourselves..

Anonymous said...

Blessings. I read the article and is definetly helping me out today. I almost got married 3 yrs. ago..but I had to make a choice..God or him..Praise Godhe allowed me to leave him(an unbeliever).I was with him for 6 long yrs. I have been waiting for 3 yrs. now I guess u could say. But always am fearfull of the alternitive at times. I want to Love the Lord and be a good Godly woman. I want to be like Elizebeth and Zackeriea(sp?)..God bless u and your faith. What an encouragment it is to know the Lord is perfect in everything.Praise God!

Amy Marie said...

Hi,
I'm almost 23, and I just broke up with my b/f last night. I've now had 4 boyfriends, none for over 8 months. I know exactly what I want in a man (I've got a list haha), so when I see things aren't going to work out because I compromised on a standard (ie strong Christian), I break up with them.

But now things are complicated. I've been in the Air Force for 6 months now, and the next 3 1/2 yrs are going to consist of moving and deployments left and right. I don't know how I'll meet someone that I can get to know well enough to marry (since I'll be gone so much).

It's quite depressing. I've prayed for the right man (but I seem to pray in "spurts" because I lose hope). I know God hears me and loves me, but what if He plans on having me be single (and horrible in relationships) FOREVER?! I feel so far behind. My friends are married with kids (or getting divorces). And I'm... single. Still.

I've got a lot to offer, I think. So what's God doing to me? He probably wants me to grow closer to Him, but everytime I want to, I get this nagging voice in my head telling me He doesn't exist. That I'm talking to myself. So I give up for awhile...

I'm just lonely. And impatient. I'm a hopeless romantic too which doesn't help me at all.

Please give me any advice you have. I'm open to anything. Even criticism. I just feel so lost and forgotten. Like God forgot to prepare a mate for me. :(

Amy Marie said...

Hi,
I'm almost 23, and I just broke up with my b/f last night. I've now had 4 boyfriends, none for over 8 months. I know exactly what I want in a man (I've got a list haha), so when I see things aren't going to work out because I compromised on a standard (ie strong Christian), I break up with them.

But now things are complicated. I've been in the Air Force for 6 months now, and the next 3 1/2 yrs are going to consist of moving and deployments left and right. I don't know how I'll meet someone that I can get to know well enough to marry (since I'll be gone so much).

It's quite depressing. I've prayed for the right man (but I seem to pray in "spurts" because I lose hope). I know God hears me and loves me, but what if He plans on having me be single (and horrible in relationships) FOREVER?! I feel so far behind. My friends are married with kids (or getting divorces). And I'm... single. Still.

I've got a lot to offer, I think. So what's God doing to me? He probably wants me to grow closer to Him, but everytime I want to, I get this nagging voice in my head telling me He doesn't exist. That I'm talking to myself. So I give up for awhile...

I'm just lonely. And impatient. I'm a hopeless romantic too which doesn't help me at all.

Please give me any advice you have. I'm open to anything. Even criticism. I just feel so lost and forgotten. Like God forgot to prepare a mate for me. :(

Amy Marie said...

Hi,
I'm almost 23, and I just broke up with my b/f last night. I've now had 4 boyfriends, none for over 8 months. I know exactly what I want in a man (I've got a list haha), so when I see things aren't going to work out because I compromised on a standard (ie strong Christian), I break up with them.

But now things are complicated. I've been in the Air Force for 6 months now, and the next 3 1/2 yrs are going to consist of moving and deployments left and right. I don't know how I'll meet someone that I can get to know well enough to marry (since I'll be gone so much).

It's quite depressing. I've prayed for the right man (but I seem to pray in "spurts" because I lose hope). I know God hears me and loves me, but what if He plans on having me be single (and horrible in relationships) FOREVER?! I feel so far behind. My friends are married with kids (or getting divorces). And I'm... single. Still.

I've got a lot to offer, I think. So what's God doing to me? He probably wants me to grow closer to Him, but everytime I want to, I get this nagging voice in my head telling me He doesn't exist. That I'm talking to myself. So I give up for awhile...

I'm just lonely. And impatient. I'm a hopeless romantic too which doesn't help me at all.

Please give me any advice you have. I'm open to anything. Even criticism. I just feel so lost and forgotten. Like God forgot to prepare a mate for me. :(

Rhoadie said...

Hey Amy, Thank you for reading my blog. Just hang in there. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Just stay focused on what you're doing in the Air Force and leave the rest to God. God knows your deepest heart desires, and He knows who your mate is. Just continue to pray and keep the faith. God Bless You.

Dauphiney said...

Hi! I'm a 28-year-old female and I've also been in the waiting seat for sometime now. Just now I started reading articls and posts on this subject and realized: I'm not alone in this! Reading these writings really strengthens my faith and reminds me of enjoying the life Jesus has given me! We just have to enjoy every phase of our lives! So, thanks, and blessings.

Anonymous said...

Try being 42 and still waiting. But, I don't sit at home waiting. I do volunteer work, I hang out with my children, I go places with friends, but most importantly, I hang out with God and enjoy His company. Yes, sometimes I get so lonely that I can't stand it. BUT GOD!!! The minute I feel that way, I pick up my bible or listen to praise and worship music. I was praying for my husband a few days ago and I felt so much love for him. It was almost like he was in the car with me. I've never felt anything when I've prayed for my future husband. I took that as a sign that God will grant that request. Don't get discouraged, don't go back to the ex's...cuz satan is busy and will taunt you. Put on the whole armour of God, be faithful to God and watch Him work.

miss quartey said...

I had just finished praying n crying to God about how long I ve to wait when I came across your blog whilst searching for articles on Waiting for God! Ur words brought light to my dimming world! Thank u ,u r blessed n highly favored

Anonymous said...

Hey,
I'am loving this post, it is so true. I'am 45yrs old and have been married but not single again. But it is well with my soul, I married in the Lord but he didn't want God like I did so he got out. Now, living single again in the Lord is a wonderful thing for me. I'am not sad but happy to do the will of the Father, yet believing that God will bless me with the Right mate for me. One that loves Him as much as I love Him. So, in my waiting mode I will trust God to provide for me my every need. I am enjoying life, not looking around to see if any man I meet is the one. I love God, I love Church, and I love ministry. I told God that Im going to do like Ruth, Gleem in the field. And Gleeming means to stay focus on the things of God, and seek after Him and trust that He will send that right one for me, and that I be that right one for my mate. So, I say to all my Beautiful Sisters "Just keep Gleeming in the Field" And your Heavenly Father knows the time and the place where Mr Right for you will see you. Be Bless!!!

SingleInFlorida said...

Hi, Rhoadie

I am not sure if you still post on your blog page. It is now 2011. I just wanted to let you know how your blog posting written in 2007 has touched me today. At the age of 36, I too wait patiently upon the Lord for my husband. My faith and patiently awaiting for God's perfect timing is what keeps me going. Anyway, thank you for a beautiful written blog post.

dd said...

This is my 2nd time reading this...still a blessing! I'm 21 and I haven't dated in 5 years.I asked God to keep all the undesirables away and only send me my true love. God has a plan and it is well with my soul.

Rhoadie said...

Thank you for reading. God Bless.

Discouraged said...

I am a 43 yr. old widow with 2 grown college attending children living at home. I want so much to be married again, like the rest of you. I know waiting on God is best, but sometimes it is so discouraging to do that. I know it is not my time for a husband, I feel that and the Lord impresses this upon me everyday. I want him to take this consuming desire from me until he sees fit to bless me with a husband again. I guess I just need some encouraging words to get me through. I have a busy life but sometimes its not enough to keep my mind off of this issue.

Rhoadie said...

Peace and Blessings Discourage may the Lord grant you the desires of your heart :)

Anonymous said...

Waiting is so much better than regretting that you didn't wait and missed out on the blessed relationship God had intended for you. I have tried to help God's plans along and as a result have had my heart broken too many times. This time I am going to stay patient, because I do not think anyone should have to endure such pain and know that you only have yourself to blame. Pray for me, please...

Youngbutcalled said...

I just broke up with bf of four yrs.. I I'm only 19.. I yes I know young however I scared to date and etc.. I because I don't to waste my time on someone that Isn't God sent.. I focused on what God has for me and only that... I so confused on what I need to do.. Im praying and trusting God.. Just not sure how to have fun.. Lol but love the blog even though I'm three years late lol..

Rhoadie said...

@anonymous I hear you, keep the faith

@youngbutcall I know young love can hurt and be very disappointing because of inexperience. Put God first and let the rest fall into place

Anonymous said...

Dear Insightful,

I just want to clarify the comment you posted "the Lord best helps those who help themselves." I'm sorry, but no where in the bible does it state this. Benjamin Franklin was the one who made this comment, not God. Actually, God helps those who cannot help themselves. The bible says that we need to wait upon the Lord, not take matters into our own hands. I suggest you read your bible to know who God really is.

Lovin LIFE said...

Oh - God bless you for posting this! I sooo needed this, you have no idea! What a treasure it is when a good word is delivered on time. I am 31 and have gone through many failed attempts with relationships due to trying to take matters into my own hands. So I am in a "waiting" period right now and I refuse to even date right now. I just want some alone time with God to grow and get to know him one on one. Crazy how Satan has sent a few of his "ambassadors" my way to try to lead me astray even during this time, but I got my armour on and they got shot down immediately without so much as a flinch from me, lol! I just love the reassurance God has given me to wait. Yes, sometimes I allow a few of those lies in and sometimes it gets rough, but everytime I call upon the Lord, he immediately gives me peace and allows me to know that waiting is an honor! This is my period to be focused on the Lord and doing the things that please him alone. I just ask him to allow me to ENJOY this period of my life and do everything I can possibly do to bring glory to Him right now. If God wants me to wait, then I will wait. Whether it be 6 months or 10 years... I will WAIT and be obedient because my love is now greater for him than ANY man and I pray it will be that way even when I marry (sorry, future mate)!

Anyway, I also want to encourage that praying and reading the word DAILY is essential during this period because a strong relationship with God will lead to a stronger love for Him. And that love must grow to be so strong for God that no man can ever come between it.

LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, MIND, AND SOUL!

Be blessed!:-D

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the encouraging blog about waiting on Lord for a husband. I am 35 yrs single waiting on Lord for a relationship that Lord has in store for me. I am holding on God's word that says that those who wait upon Lord shall never be ashamed. Waiting is painful but helping me to grow in Lord more and more and trusting in Him for everything. For I am helpless but my Lord is my only help. I know the days of loneliness when satan tells you so many things and no one physically present to say those three beautiful words "I love you" that everyone desires. Nothing can be done in that area but just trusting and holding on God. I have failed in my past relationships and just wonder God is there anyone for me? But then reading your blog and all the people who are waiting on Lord and how they feel made me feel that I am not alone. There are people just like me. I just need to hold on and trust in Lord and my God who gives every desires of our heart if we hold on to Him. I am getting older and my biological clock is ticking and people just give comments about my singlehood and the devil gives me thoughts of seeing other people blessed with family and loving husband and kids and my hands are empty. Is there a hope for me? All these thoughts sometimes stagger me from my trust but the word of God brings me back to Him and helps me to hold on my God. Pray for me guys and for all those people who are waiting... God bless everyone.

Rhoadie said...

I appreciate all the positive feedback and keep the faith.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for your words of encouragement. They were honest, insightful, and relative to what I and alot of other women are going through.
Thanks again Rhoadie. :)

Anonymous said...

Hey u'all, hahaha I am in JHB south africa, managed to find this article after 5yrs! Crazy I knw.

One thing I'm certain of is that God is timeless. In John 1:4 'God made all things, not one thing in all creation was made without him. It thus stands to reason that he won't forget about his own, especially since he created us in his own image. Surely the blood of Jesus Christ is still fighting for us.

Yes, our husbands will come to pass. In the meantime let us rejoice and be grateful that God's grace and love sustain us.

God has never failed me and I'm willing to bet everything I have that God won't fail you. KEEP the faith, if Mandela can wait in Jail for 27 yrs for freedom, surely we can wait in our comfortable homes for God to answer us also... In the meantime Abide in the Lord and love urselves:)

Woza 2012 (woza- a zulu word which means come! Im CALLING on the challenges and joys of 2012)I can cause my daddy sits on the throne! Crazy for God.

Love,
T (from SA)

Anonymous said...

Hi Rhoadie, I'm 44 never been married and been waiting and praying for at least 7 years....It gets tough, living in Africa and having evil comments from close family and friends you care about leaving you out of their marriage plans and not even allowing you to enjoy their babies and mind you....you are NOT allowed to be upset...because then they say you are bitter or envious...May the God Lord make haste!

Anonymous said...

To all my sisters in Christ Jesus, look up a change is about to take place for all of us. God will send us "Godly Husbands. This is our year. Hold on God is not a man that he should lie . Has he not said it? And he will make it good.

Missy said...

I think I'm putting too much pressure on myself....Turning 27 made me anxious to start my life....but my life began 27 years ago!!!

Rhoadie said...

don't be anxious just keep seeking God

Cangel101 said...

I'm happy that I found this blog. These moments when I am weak, I pray and read His word. I think this is the first time really that I am trusting God to bring me the one for me. It gets tough at times, there is no denying that but I've been allowing men to choose me instead of consulting God.

Anonymous said...

Good words Sister! After a year of praying and emailing a particular man who I randomly met on an airplane last year I'm waiting on God to either open the door or close it. I feel a huge amount of peace about pursuing a relationship with this man as we both love the Lord and have the same calling in life. However, he must also feel the same way. God did give us free will. I'm learning in all things to WAIT on God and not get discouraged because the natural is not lining up with his words. He said that if we delight in him that He would give us the desires of our hearts. It seems that those of us on this blog have a deep desire for our future spouses! Lord, give us patience, faith and joy in the waiting period!!! :D

Rhonda Jones said...

That's right wait on God and remember that all things work together for the good!

Anonymous said...

Divorced for six years i am almost 49 and very afraid i will never find another husband. i cry alot and i am very lonely, my baby girl will leave for college august of this year and i am so afraid of the empty nest. i fell in love with a guy and i have been praying for God to reunite us he is a Chrisitan but it looks so hopelss. I have dreams of him being my husband i dont know if it is really from God or just an obsession. I have a desire to be married so bad. I hardly go anywhere but church and work most of my friends drink and go to clubs i am so lonely so hurt and sometimes angry and bitter.. I want try to seek God first but it is hard i feel like giving up so many times i just dont know what to do. My self esteem is at a 0 now.. i am so depresseed

Rhonda Jones said...

Well hang in there and keep pressing. God will answer your hearts desire according to His Will.

Anonymous said...

Just read your article, and it is nice to know there is someone who can relate to the struggles of the "waiting" period. You have given me a positive outlook that God truly has a plan for each and every one of us. So thank you for your words of encouragement. God Bless.

Rhonda Jones said...

Thanks for reading and keep the faith!!!

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